Comments on: Friday, Friends and Panties http://singletracey.wordpress.com/2008/01/18/friday-friends-and-panties/ My Journey To Single Motherhood Sun, 15 Nov 2009 20:09:45 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: Chris http://singletracey.wordpress.com/2008/01/18/friday-friends-and-panties/#comment-2226 Chris Mon, 17 Mar 2008 15:55:42 +0000 http://singletracey.wordpress.com/2008/01/18/friday-friends-and-panties/#comment-2226 I know that this post is old but I did a serch on the internet about pregnancy and friendship. I am the first one of my friends to get married and have children. My husband and my son are the most important people in my life. Watching my son grow up the past 10 months has be a time I will always tresure. I have a close friend who we have been friends since the 8th grade. I feel like she has completly cut me out of her life and wants nothing to do with me. I don't have the time I used to obviously. I just bought a home and work full time. I feellike if I don't go to a bar to hang out, I am off of the social circuit. She said that she wanted to be a big part of my sons life. I can count on one hand how many times she has seen my baby. It hurts and I am worried about when my son gets older. I know that this post is old but I did a serch on the internet about pregnancy and friendship. I am the first one of my friends to get married and have children. My husband and my son are the most important people in my life. Watching my son grow up the past 10 months has be a time I will always tresure. I have a close friend who we have been friends since the 8th grade. I feel like she has completly cut me out of her life and wants nothing to do with me. I don’t have the time I used to obviously. I just bought a home and work full time. I feellike if I don’t go to a bar to hang out, I am off of the social circuit. She said that she wanted to be a big part of my sons life. I can count on one hand how many times she has seen my baby. It hurts and I am worried about when my son gets older.

]]> By: chelle1464 http://singletracey.wordpress.com/2008/01/18/friday-friends-and-panties/#comment-1877 chelle1464 Mon, 21 Jan 2008 23:35:18 +0000 http://singletracey.wordpress.com/2008/01/18/friday-friends-and-panties/#comment-1877 argh... Some people just don't get what it is to be a friend. Sorry you've got one of those. You are a dear and deserve the best! And I'm late, but congrats on the healthy singleton!! Your joy is palpable, even virtually. :) argh… Some people just don’t get what it is to be a friend. Sorry you’ve got one of those. You are a dear and deserve the best! And I’m late, but congrats on the healthy singleton!! Your joy is palpable, even virtually. :)

]]> By: Calliope http://singletracey.wordpress.com/2008/01/18/friday-friends-and-panties/#comment-1875 Calliope Sat, 19 Jan 2008 23:59:35 +0000 http://singletracey.wordpress.com/2008/01/18/friday-friends-and-panties/#comment-1875 I have a friend, a really good one, that still tells me that if I am positive that I will get knocked up. um. yeah. She is also a fan of the, "it all happens for a reason". Maybe I will learn that when I am dead- but in the thick of life I don't want to think that there was a reason for all of my PAIN. friends, even the great ones, sometimes just don't get it. xo I have a friend, a really good one, that still tells me that if I am positive that I will get knocked up. um. yeah. She is also a fan of the, “it all happens for a reason”. Maybe I will learn that when I am dead- but in the thick of life I don’t want to think that there was a reason for all of my PAIN.

friends, even the great ones, sometimes just don’t get it.
xo

]]> By: teacherlady75 http://singletracey.wordpress.com/2008/01/18/friday-friends-and-panties/#comment-1874 teacherlady75 Sat, 19 Jan 2008 19:09:19 +0000 http://singletracey.wordpress.com/2008/01/18/friday-friends-and-panties/#comment-1874 Wow, PEPPER has nailed my thoughts 100% Esp the IAAM-itis. Glad you are physically feeling pretty though Tracey. I am updated my Blog tonight so check me out, Blog sister. Please also e-mail me if you want to share IM Handle ID's Sassy T. Wow, PEPPER has nailed my thoughts 100% Esp the IAAM-itis. Glad you are physically feeling pretty though Tracey. I am updated my Blog tonight so check me out, Blog sister. Please also e-mail me if you want to share IM Handle ID’s Sassy T.

]]> By: Pepper http://singletracey.wordpress.com/2008/01/18/friday-friends-and-panties/#comment-1873 Pepper Sat, 19 Jan 2008 05:12:28 +0000 http://singletracey.wordpress.com/2008/01/18/friday-friends-and-panties/#comment-1873 Sounds like Lena has a bad case of ItsAllAboutMe-itis. People with IAAM-itis will suck the life out of you when they have something going on, but don't have the time of day for you when you have something going on. I'm well-acquainted with them, unfortunately. They tend to be attracted to people who are good listeners and who work to keep friendships intact. Sorry you had to deal with this! It's fortunate that it happened earlier in your pg rather than later because now you know not to count on her, but I'm sure it still stings and can't be much fun. Sounds like Lena has a bad case of ItsAllAboutMe-itis. People with IAAM-itis will suck the life out of you when they have something going on, but don’t have the time of day for you when you have something going on. I’m well-acquainted with them, unfortunately. They tend to be attracted to people who are good listeners and who work to keep friendships intact.

Sorry you had to deal with this! It’s fortunate that it happened earlier in your pg rather than later because now you know not to count on her, but I’m sure it still stings and can’t be much fun.

]]> By: Rebecca http://singletracey.wordpress.com/2008/01/18/friday-friends-and-panties/#comment-1872 Rebecca Sat, 19 Jan 2008 02:39:25 +0000 http://singletracey.wordpress.com/2008/01/18/friday-friends-and-panties/#comment-1872 I have a friend (recently pregnant on IUI #6) who told me that I was trying to outdo her by having twins...amazing, huh? You may have to have a "friend breakup" for your own sanity! I have a friend (recently pregnant on IUI #6) who told me that I was trying to outdo her by having twins…amazing, huh? You may have to have a “friend breakup” for your own sanity!

]]> By: Michell http://singletracey.wordpress.com/2008/01/18/friday-friends-and-panties/#comment-1870 Michell Fri, 18 Jan 2008 23:20:26 +0000 http://singletracey.wordpress.com/2008/01/18/friday-friends-and-panties/#comment-1870 I have and have had friends like that. I still have a few in my life who I try to limit contact with since having high maintenance friends who make you feel like it's work to be around them drive me nuts and I'm trying to eliminate that. Difficult to do since I'm such a softy. It hurts but sometimes just allowing the distance is the easiest thing. Oh and I so know what you mean about panties. Except thongs. I've always figured I look awful in one so no point in wearing it. But nothing like a good pair that stays put. I have and have had friends like that. I still have a few in my life who I try to limit contact with since having high maintenance friends who make you feel like it’s work to be around them drive me nuts and I’m trying to eliminate that. Difficult to do since I’m such a softy. It hurts but sometimes just allowing the distance is the easiest thing.
Oh and I so know what you mean about panties. Except thongs. I’ve always figured I look awful in one so no point in wearing it. But nothing like a good pair that stays put.

]]> By: Lora http://singletracey.wordpress.com/2008/01/18/friday-friends-and-panties/#comment-1869 Lora Fri, 18 Jan 2008 20:01:54 +0000 http://singletracey.wordpress.com/2008/01/18/friday-friends-and-panties/#comment-1869 Oh goodie, I get to be the first to respond. My first thought on your blog today is in regards to Lena...been there, done that...just this past week, in fact! You took the words right out of my mouth, or mind, rather, when you said she's a "high maintenance" friend! I can't do high maintenance either!! I've had this friend Netty that I've been very close, you could almost say "best" friends with for about 11 years. I've watched her daughter grow up (she just went off to college), we've gone on many vacations together before and after Liam was born, etc, etc, etc. Well, forgive me for being so, but I'm a little "consumed" lately with my fertility issues. I haven't been the BEST friend I could be lately, but it's really just because I tend to close in when I'm depressed, rather than call and dump my problems on other people...ESPECIALLY those that have not faced infertility and wouldn't understand anyway. Well, Netty calls me last week and wants to know why I don't call her much, why I don't come around...so I open up and pour my heart out. I tell her it's because I'm depressed and I just don't call anyone (not just her) and that I dont' want to burden people with my degrading mood. She seems half-hearted in saying that we've been friends for years and I can call her whenever I need to talk...oh ok...and THEN 2 days later she leaves me a message on my machine that she just feels our friendship doesn't mean anything to me anymore and she's choosing to END it and she will NOT be calling me anymore because I'm too obsessed with my fertility problem!!!!!! WTF??? You're kidding, right?? You BEG me to pour my heart out just so you can stomp all over it and SHIT on me?? Sorry, guess it's a vent fest here on your blog today...but whew, do I feel better!!! lol I hope you do too. Guess my whole point is this: I'm just trying to look at the Lena's and Netty's of the world and tell myself that there ARE people like that and it's MY choice if I choose to be friends with those poeple..or I can choose NOT to include them in my life. :) Life is hard enough without having such high maintenance friends!!!! RIGHT?? :) Include me in your list of supporters that are SOOOO ecstatic for you!!! :) Oh goodie, I get to be the first to respond. My first thought on your blog today is in regards to Lena…been there, done that…just this past week, in fact! You took the words right out of my mouth, or mind, rather, when you said she’s a “high maintenance” friend! I can’t do high maintenance either!! I’ve had this friend Netty that I’ve been very close, you could almost say “best” friends with for about 11 years. I’ve watched her daughter grow up (she just went off to college), we’ve gone on many vacations together before and after Liam was born, etc, etc, etc. Well, forgive me for being so, but I’m a little “consumed” lately with my fertility issues. I haven’t been the BEST friend I could be lately, but it’s really just because I tend to close in when I’m depressed, rather than call and dump my problems on other people…ESPECIALLY those that have not faced infertility and wouldn’t understand anyway. Well, Netty calls me last week and wants to know why I don’t call her much, why I don’t come around…so I open up and pour my heart out. I tell her it’s because I’m depressed and I just don’t call anyone (not just her) and that I dont’ want to burden people with my degrading mood. She seems half-hearted in saying that we’ve been friends for years and I can call her whenever I need to talk…oh ok…and THEN 2 days later she leaves me a message on my machine that she just feels our friendship doesn’t mean anything to me anymore and she’s choosing to END it and she will NOT be calling me anymore because I’m too obsessed with my fertility problem!!!!!! WTF??? You’re kidding, right?? You BEG me to pour my heart out just so you can stomp all over it and SHIT on me?? Sorry, guess it’s a vent fest here on your blog today…but whew, do I feel better!!! lol I hope you do too. Guess my whole point is this: I’m just trying to look at the Lena’s and Netty’s of the world and tell myself that there ARE people like that and it’s MY choice if I choose to be friends with those poeple..or I can choose NOT to include them in my life. :) Life is hard enough without having such high maintenance friends!!!! RIGHT?? :) Include me in your list of supporters that are SOOOO ecstatic for you!!! :)

]]> By: milkmaid79 http://singletracey.wordpress.com/2008/01/18/friday-friends-and-panties/#comment-1868 milkmaid79 Fri, 18 Jan 2008 19:51:25 +0000 http://singletracey.wordpress.com/2008/01/18/friday-friends-and-panties/#comment-1868 Ug- high mantience friends become your stalkers if you aren't careful. Well, mine did at least. Maybe she is jealous? Who knows- all I do know is that I am happy for ya and if you stick with the IRL friends (and us muppets) we will always stand by your side! :X Have a fab weekend! Ug- high mantience friends become your stalkers if you aren’t careful. Well, mine did at least. Maybe she is jealous? Who knows- all I do know is that I am happy for ya and if you stick with the IRL friends (and us muppets) we will always stand by your side! :X Have a fab weekend!

]]> By: Amy R http://singletracey.wordpress.com/2008/01/18/friday-friends-and-panties/#comment-1867 Amy R Fri, 18 Jan 2008 19:18:36 +0000 http://singletracey.wordpress.com/2008/01/18/friday-friends-and-panties/#comment-1867 I totally get what you are saying. Its so hard to figure out friends sometimes...its big intense situations like this where you really begin to figure out who are lifers in friend land, you know? Maybe thats why I haven't confided in too many people IRL about whats going on with E and I. I just feel that they wont "get it" and will say something stupid/ignorant/hurtful. Congrats also of a very wonderful sounding U/S!! I totally get what you are saying. Its so hard to figure out friends sometimes…its big intense situations like this where you really begin to figure out who are lifers in friend land, you know? Maybe thats why I haven’t confided in too many people IRL about whats going on with E and I. I just feel that they wont “get it” and will say something stupid/ignorant/hurtful.

Congrats also of a very wonderful sounding U/S!!

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