Well, Deb got to go into today to take ber Beta… but not until 3pm. Since it was so late, I imagine that the results will not be in until tomorrow sometime. I will be calling and bugging people if I don’t hear by 11am tomorrow (Tuesday). Stay Tuned For That. In the meantime, enjoy the convo that took place at the lab ~
So today Deb went to a lab she has not gone to before. It started as a visit to Q*uest and when she arrived, they were kind enough to tell her that if she went next door to Uni*lab that the draw would be covered by her insurance. The gal there was SUPER nice and walked her over and delivered her to Uni*lab and the lab request and Uni*lab said they would do the draw no problem. The conversation upon being called back for the actual blood draw went as follows:
Bloodman (the phlebotomist) – Good Afternoon
Debbie – Hi There
Bloodman – Is this your first pregnancy?
Debbie – No, my third. But this is really my sisters pregnancy. I am a surrogate for her.
Bloodman – Oh …… how does that work?
Debbie – (with an inquisitive look on her face wondering how to answer this as she was perplexed that he would really take the conversation to this level and not leave it be at the “I am a surrogate for her”) What do you mean?
Bloodman – I mean how does it work? Do they take her egg and fertilize it and then put it in you? (Clearly he has an idea of how it works or he wouldn’t be asking this NOSEY ASS QUESTION)
Debbie – Well in this situation, it is a traditional surrogacy so it is my egg and donor sperm.
Bloodman – So, technically it is YOUR baby.
Debbie – No, it is not my baby, it is my sisters baby.
Bloodman – Well it is your egg and your carrying it. So your giving her your baby. Isn’t that weird? Isn’t that going to be hard to explain? Isn’t that going to be hard to do… to give her your baby?
Debbie – (at a loss because she can’t believe he is saying this to her) Well I love my sister very much so….
Bloodman – Well you must if you are doing that. Alright, all done.
Debbie – (still wondering if she is in the Twilight Zone or if people really do ask these questions and realizing that she is going to have to plan for the next stranger that feels entitled to ask those types of questions) Great. Thanks.
Debbie gets in the car and calls me and tells me that she wishes to NOT return to that place for a beta again. She then tells me the story. We need to work on how to deal with this situation because clearly it is going to come up because if it came up once.. it will come up again.