My friend Trisha posted about the super charged Time cover. Since the article really isn’t about breastfeeding at all, it’s about attachment parenting, this is something many adoptive parents are interested in. You see, we don’t have 9 months of growing a baby in our tummy. Many of us missed the first year and the second. Some even more than that. Because of that, it is so important that we find ways to encourage attachment between us and our child(ren).
Everyone has ways that work for them. For me, there was a lot of one on one contact, endless rocking and cradling, talking, singing, massage, sensory play, soft words, carresses, affection and lots of motherly nurturing and encouraging. For me it worked and continues to work. Thank Goodness. I am lucky it’s not always so simple.
Trisha, being the awesome blogger she is (BTW she cooks and blogs about it, she also bakes and always has great fun kid ideas to share) challenged us in a fun way, her friends, fellow bloggers, to list what made us mom enough. And so, here is my list:
I am mom enough to:
- take the time to make sure my kid is polite and grateful
- love a little girl a lot of people in another place didn’t think was worth it
- say it’s just water so it’s not really a mess
- stop on a busy day when my girl asks to snuggle on the couch; I do and we both take a well deserved nap
- let my child dress herself in mismatched clothes and shoes and head out to the store or the park or to Nana’s house
- not even care when my child wants to where sunglasses everywhere we go including restaurants, parties and doctors offices
- run to her and hold her tightly and reassure her the train she hears in the distance is not coming for her (that is the ONLY sound we have not gotten past and I often wonder if it is because the orphanage was near train tracks)
- admit that sometimes I fib and says its 8:30 when really it’s 8:20
Anyone else want to play and say what makes them Mom enough??
Happy Mother’s Day Everyone!!